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HOW INSOMNIA DEVELOPS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

Dr NIshi Bhopal

 

CBTI for Insomnia

I really enjoyed this interview with my colleague Dr Nishi Bhopal, who is a board registered Psychiatrist, Sleep Medicine Specialist and Integrative Medicine practitioner. Listen to us discuss cognitive behavioural therapy for insomnia.

The Sabir Bhatti Show

 

OVERCOMING SLEEP PROBLEMS AND INSOMNIA

This was one of the most interesting interviews I have done! Sabir Bhatti runs a YouTube Channel called the Sabir Bhatti show. It is well worth the watch if you are interested in wellbeing and self improvement.

Deep Into Sleep

 

Discussing CBTI with Dr Yishan Xu, Sleep Pschologist

Deep Into Sleep is just one of Dr Yishan Xu’s many YouTube shows. It was a huge pleasure to be on her podcast and this is the video rendition of the time we chatted.

 

Podcast Guesting

This section is in development and will be updating. If you are interested in having me as a guest please contact me, I’d be thrilled to discuss your show and if we are a good fit.

Menopause and CBT for Insomnia

by Bev Thorogood | Generation Exceptional - Menopause and Insomnia

Tracy Talks CBTI and Insomnia

by The Sleep Whisperer | Insomnia and CBTi

World Sleep Day Experts

by The Sleep Whisperer | 2021 Retrospective

Sound Sleep Strategies

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Getting a good night sleep with insomnia is everyone's dream, right? Naturally when you haven't slept well a good night feels good! Acknowledge it. That's fine.
The problem arises when we 'celebrate' that good night. Why?
We then want to figure out 'what made it happen' so we can 'do it again'. Courtesy that joyful dopamine hit we indulged in.  Trying to 'make it happen again' sets up lots of problems, such as....
Performance anxiety
Overfocussing on what 'caused' it to happen
Reinforces the idea that a bad night of sleep is something to avoid/make stop
Sets up a 'battle' - the 'good' vs the 'bad'
Creates 'striving', and lack of acceptance - the better night becomes the 'measuring stick' to which we compare all other nights  Even when people DO NOT have insomnia, they have nights that vary wildly in quality and quantity. They don't compare the nights.  When people DO have insomnia and get in the comparison trap after a good night,  they set themselves up for worse sleep by examining it, thinking about it, pining for it, trying to recreate it.  They may have another good night or another bad one....and when the less good night comes (inevitably) it sets the cycle off again.
This is how people get on the 'trying stuff' rollercoaster. Try 'a thing'. Feel relief because the bottle says it will help with sleep. Relief leads to better sleep. Until a natural change or a leaning into the old tendencies.  Then 'it didn't work', and back on the cycle.
Avoid comparing your night of sleep to any other night.  They are like people - always different, always changing. Trying to pin them all down to fit into an ideal will only create more sleeping problems.
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Naturally when you haven't slept well a good night feels good! Acknowledge it. That's fine.

The problem arises when we 'celebrate' that good night. Why?

We then want to figure out 'what made it happen' so we can 'do it again'. Courtesy that joyful dopamine hit we indulged in. Trying to 'make it happen again' sets up lots of problems, such as....

Performance anxiety

Overfocussing on what 'caused' it to happen

Reinforces the idea that a bad night of sleep is something to avoid/make stop

Sets up a 'battle' - the 'good' vs the 'bad'

Creates 'striving', and lack of acceptance - the better night becomes the 'measuring stick' to which we compare all other nights


Even when people DO NOT have insomnia, they have nights that vary wildly in quality and quantity. They don't compare the nights. When people DO have insomnia and get in the comparison trap after a good night, they set themselves up for worse sleep by examining it, thinking about it, pining for it, trying to recreate it. They may have another good night or another bad one....and when the less good night comes (inevitably) it sets the cycle off again.

This is how people get on the 'trying stuff' rollercoaster. Try 'a thing'. Feel relief because the bottle says it will help with sleep. Relief leads to better sleep. Until a natural change or a leaning into the old tendencies. Then 'it didn't work', and back on the cycle.

Avoid comparing your night of sleep to any other night. They are like people - always different, always changing. Trying to pin them all down to fit into an ideal will only create more sleeping problems.

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