Latest from the blog

The Best Way To Relax For Sleep

The Best Way To Relax For Sleep

I often get asked about the ‘best way to relax’ and how to use relaxation for sleep. This is especially true when it comes to the relaxation training/mindfulness aspects of CBTi. There isn’t a really specific answer to that. There are as many ways as there are people!...

read more
The term Insomniac Makes It Harder To Recover

The term Insomniac Makes It Harder To Recover

I don’t like the word ‘insomniac’. Why is that? Imagine a person says: I have insomnia. and then I am an insomniac. Do they actually ‘say’ the same thing? I don’t think so.   What do these statements mean? There is a big difference in what those statements mean. As I...

read more
Sleep Paralysis

Sleep Paralysis

I get a lot of questions about sleep paralysis. Sleep paralysis is an inability to move the body when falling asleep or when waking up from sleep.  This happens when the mind and the brain/body are out of sync.  The mind and your consciousness is moving either faster...

read more
Acceptance and Insomnia – Mortal Enemies

Acceptance and Insomnia – Mortal Enemies

What is 'acceptance' in the context of insomnia? Acceptance is not resignation. It's not 'putting up with', either. Acceptance (as viewed through both mindfulness approaches and ACT) has two aims: Acceptance of things that are out of our control - things we like and...

read more

Grab a cuppa and read with me…and if there’s anything you’d like to see me write, feel free to ask!

FEATURED IN THE MEDIA

  • The Independent
  • The Sunday Herald
  • Female First Columnist
  • Insomnia.Sleep-Disorders.net
  • The Sabir Bhatti Show
  • World Sleep Day Podcast
  • Deep Into Sleep Podcast
  • The Sleep Whisperer Podcast
  • We Are The City
  • MenoDelight

YouTube

Getting a good night sleep with insomnia is everyone's dream, right? Naturally when you haven't slept well a good night feels good! Acknowledge it. That's fine.
The problem arises when we 'celebrate' that good night. Why?
We then want to figure out 'what made it happen' so we can 'do it again'. Courtesy that joyful dopamine hit we indulged in.  Trying to 'make it happen again' sets up lots of problems, such as....
Performance anxiety
Overfocussing on what 'caused' it to happen
Reinforces the idea that a bad night of sleep is something to avoid/make stop
Sets up a 'battle' - the 'good' vs the 'bad'
Creates 'striving', and lack of acceptance - the better night becomes the 'measuring stick' to which we compare all other nights  Even when people DO NOT have insomnia, they have nights that vary wildly in quality and quantity. They don't compare the nights.  When people DO have insomnia and get in the comparison trap after a good night,  they set themselves up for worse sleep by examining it, thinking about it, pining for it, trying to recreate it.  They may have another good night or another bad one....and when the less good night comes (inevitably) it sets the cycle off again.
This is how people get on the 'trying stuff' rollercoaster. Try 'a thing'. Feel relief because the bottle says it will help with sleep. Relief leads to better sleep. Until a natural change or a leaning into the old tendencies.  Then 'it didn't work', and back on the cycle.
Avoid comparing your night of sleep to any other night.  They are like people - always different, always changing. Trying to pin them all down to fit into an ideal will only create more sleeping problems.
_____________________
All of my videos are for information purposes only. As always, consult your healthcare professional before making any changes to your lifestyle or health.
If you have any questions you'd like to ask, drop them into my questions form and I may feature your question on video: https://forms.gle/oNmZLAC6sP56DFus5
And - subscribe so you know when my next videos come out! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQled2e8de5TuZhXJOP9H-A?sub_confirmation=1
FREE HELP
🆓 Get my FREE PDF💤
https://sleepclub.tracythesleepcoach.co.uk  MY COURSE
Learn to reclaim your sleep! https://www.members.tracythesleepcoach.co.uk/courses/sleep-recovery-course-1  MY COMMUNITY
🏡 You'll feel like you're home when you join my FREE Facebook group where we talk all things sleep and insomnia in a tight-knit interactive community! It's called Sound Sleep Strategies 💤
https://www.facebook.com/groups/soundsleepstrategies  FOLLOW ME
 👁‍🗨 Instagram | https://instagram.com/tracythesleepcoach.co.uk
 👁‍🗨 Facebook | https://Facebook.com/tracythesleepcoach.co.uk  REACH OUT
❔ https://tracythesleepcoach.co.uk  tracy@tracythesleepcoach.co.uk

Naturally when you haven't slept well a good night feels good! Acknowledge it. That's fine.

The problem arises when we 'celebrate' that good night. Why?

We then want to figure out 'what made it happen' so we can 'do it again'. Courtesy that joyful dopamine hit we indulged in. Trying to 'make it happen again' sets up lots of problems, such as....

Performance anxiety

Overfocussing on what 'caused' it to happen

Reinforces the idea that a bad night of sleep is something to avoid/make stop

Sets up a 'battle' - the 'good' vs the 'bad'

Creates 'striving', and lack of acceptance - the better night becomes the 'measuring stick' to which we compare all other nights


Even when people DO NOT have insomnia, they have nights that vary wildly in quality and quantity. They don't compare the nights. When people DO have insomnia and get in the comparison trap after a good night, they set themselves up for worse sleep by examining it, thinking about it, pining for it, trying to recreate it. They may have another good night or another bad one....and when the less good night comes (inevitably) it sets the cycle off again.

This is how people get on the 'trying stuff' rollercoaster. Try 'a thing'. Feel relief because the bottle says it will help with sleep. Relief leads to better sleep. Until a natural change or a leaning into the old tendencies. Then 'it didn't work', and back on the cycle.

Avoid comparing your night of sleep to any other night. They are like people - always different, always changing. Trying to pin them all down to fit into an ideal will only create more sleeping problems.

Any questions, drop them below!

// MY C O M M U N I T Y

🏡 You'll feel like you're home when you join my FREE facebook group where we talk all things sleep and insomnia in a tight knit interactive community! It's called Sound Sleep Strategies 💤

https://www.facebook.com/groups/soundsleepstrategies


// F O L L O W ME

👁‍🗨 Instagram | https://instagram.com/tracythesleepcoach/​
👁‍🗨 Facebook | https://Facebook.com/tracythesleepcoach/​


// C O N T A C T M E

[email protected]

YouTube Video UExJZ2o0TkEyWlZQYVE1RVlLZlFLU0FXWm00X0k5dTVPWS4zMDg5MkQ5MEVDMEM1NTg2

Getting A Good Night Sleep With Insomnia - Why Not Celebrate?

Tracy The Sleep Coach

Learn and act, but let sleep take care of itself...

Tracy